Really???

So, I have blissfully been able to stay away from the blogger, facebook, twitter issues of having people post negative comments... Because let's face it.. I have 1 maybe 2 loyal followers, and the rest are just happen-chancers who could really care less...

But today, as I was working from home in my PJ's and slippers, I received a surprising email from a former employer... Surprising, because the bridges were basically burned from both ends when I left my employment there. I had made no bones about letting them know exactly why I was leaving... Which of course, left a very spoiled, rotten, bitter taste in their mouth (as well as mine)...

I actually updated my FB status with this, as I was shocked to say the least... and know that after this length of time, for this person to give me these compliments was probably hard to swallow (if we're sticking with the oral analogies). So it meant that much more...

Then later in the day as I am checking my notifications,,, which are usually light and sweet hello's etc there is notification that a former coworker has commented on my status... hmmm...

It took all of 10 seconds reading time for my good (and well deserved mind you) mood to be dashed... as this former coworker tells me basically to not believe a word of it, and that he is only being nice because he must need something....

Really? REALLY???

A) Assuming you know WHICH former employer this was is quite an assumption to make... Let's face it, we all get nerves of steal if we know we are leaving right? Those proverbial bridges could have been in 1 of many places if I am being honest about it ...

B) IF you know me as well as you think you do, with everything I have been though in my life, do you really think I am naive enough to not see through what could be a false compliment? Do you really think I wouldn't be able to spot a less than genuine sentiment, especially if the other person could potentially have something to gain???

C) A and B aside, I obviously was feeling good enough about it, probably due to my less than stellar people and intuitive skills, to actually share it and post it to my status.... Are you so miserable in your own life that it becomes imperative to steal someone elses joy? Really?????? How unfortunate for you...

Surprisingly my first instinct was to delete the comment,,, which I did... Surprising, because typically my response would have been to post some equally-as-destructive comment back, in a you steal mine I steal yours attitude... so Kudos to me for being able to take the high road by year 42 (although I am not really sure this constitutes as High,,, maybe more middle road than high).

My second reaction was to send this person a FB message, pointing out her misguided assumptions etc... laced with quippy-snarky remarks of course... To which I also said no...

My third reaction is,,, my how sad for this person... To be in basically the same mind set they were in when I left them over a year ago. Realizing that a year appears to have brought them no personal growth, no increased maturity, no greater happiness. How unfortunate that it is OK in their book to attempt to steal the happiness of those around them, for what ever the reason may be,,, and in such a public forum... I mean if you were really my friend, you would have at least sent me a private message, charging me to be careful of wolves in sheep's clothing...(see I told you middle road not high road)...

Forth, this confirms my belief that people you work(ed) with should never be allowed into the inner sanctum,,, especially not to my Face Book page...

PS... I'm still in a good mood,,, just feels like I have a popcorn kernel stuck in my teeth...